3+ME: What you didn’t learn last year

  • Legos.
  • Health.
  • Books.
  • Politics.
  • Religion.
  • Finances.
  • Video games.
  • Famous artists.
  • Climate change.
  • Personal growth.
  • How to close a pool for winter.

A list of Just Some Of The Things I Do Not Know Enough About To Carry On An Intelligent Conversation Regarding.

(We’re barely scratching the surface, here.)

But seriously. Do you ever think about the sheer quantity of stuff you DON’T know?

The end of another year throws that into sharp relief sometimes.

“Another year over, and I still don’t know [fill in the blank].”

— You, circa December 2019, 2018, 2017, etc.

When I was a kid, I used to assume that when you grew up, you just automatically KNEW certain things.

Like taxes.

Or how to cook.

Or car maintenance.

Or what the stock market is.

(Spoiler alert: That ain’t how it works.)

Knowledge isn’t something that’s magically granted along with your right to vote at age 18.


There’s so much to know in the world, and when you feel overwhelmed by it all, it’s just easier to turn off all inputs and curl up in a ball. Where do people find the time and the brain capacity to learn and RETAIN all this info?

Like, seriously?

And not just adults, either.

We were at Savers the other weekend with the kids, when my stepson came running over to us, eyes sparkling, as he carried a board game he’d discovered.

“It’s Bionicle!” he exclaimed.

Bionicle being a type of Lego robot thingies, that he’s been obsessed with for YEARS.

When we brought it home, he read and reread the instructions to help us understand how the game worked.

It was actually quite difficult — mostly because it used a lot of terms that we didn’t understand.

I say “we” meaning my husband, stepdaughter and myself.

My stepson? He knew all of them.

Matinui. Makuta. Toraga. Kopaka. I probably spelled all of them wrong.

He didn’t even bat an eye.

He knows




About every single character, and the lore, and the culture about the world(s) they live in.

It amazes me, how much he stores in his head.

(Don’t even get me started on all the books and video games he knows, and the conversations he can launch into about those.)

I try to keep up. I really do. But good lord it’s difficult.

“How do you have room in your head for all this stuff?” I’ve asked him, on more than one occasion.

He usually just shrugs and grins. “I like it,” is his usual response.


He likes it.

Maybe … that’s the trick?

Maybe that’s really what we SHOULD be focusing on, when it comes to all the things we don’t know.

Maybe it’s okay to not know All The Things.

If instead of focusing on how much we don’t know, we can focus on the things we DO.

Appreciate the knowledge we have, the expertise we bring in the things we enjoy.

And then maybe expand it, one little bit at a time this new year, instead of getting overwhelmed because there’s so much we “should” know.

Maybe Bionicles aren’t your thing.

Maybe cooking a Julia Child-level meal isn’t in the cards for you this week.

Maybe you don’t know the difference between the paintings of Caravaggio and El Greco.

And that’s okay.

Pick ONE new thing to learn this January.

And learn a little about it. Just a little.

You don’t have to become an expert. Just enough to make sure you’re always growing.

Because at the end of the day (…or the year) that’s really all that matters. Not how much you know, but how much you’ve grown.

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