#bonusmomnotstepmom A friend hashtagged a social media post with this a few weeks ago, and I paused when I saw it. I understood why she’d written it. Her blended family situation is very different from mine: She’s the full-time maternal … Continue reading 3+ME: ‘Stepkid’ vs. ‘my kid’: How important are the names we use?
You never know what you’ve got til it’s gone, they say. But I’m an editor, and I’d like to reconstruct that sentiment a bit: You never know what you’re missing til you’ve found it. Really, you don’t. You can spend … Continue reading 3+ME: Two years of the four of us
Life is “supposed to” be a blank canvas, but stepmoms don’t really fit into “supposed to.” Ever been to a paint night? You know the kind, where the instructor takes you step by step through the process of conquering a … Continue reading 3+ME: A masterpiece someone else started
In part-time custody, the kids have two houses, and that can complicate things It shouldn’t have been phrased as a question. “Do you want to come to our house tonight?” It ought to have been a statement, not an option. … Continue reading 3+ME: Why a “vacation” home is the worst
Apparently today is Easter. I completely forgot. Until five days ago, anyway. I mean, yes, I’ve seen ads for Easter, and promotions, and decorations. My mom was even talking about making a bunny cake and coloring eggs this weekend with … Continue reading 3+ME: Random acts of kindness don’t have to include snacks (but it’s nice when they do)
The world is full of beliefs, and we want the kids to understand that In a dark world ruled by dragons, a band of heroes comes to the rescue of hundreds of imprisoned humans. The heroes try to persuade the … Continue reading 3+ME: Fantasy, faith, and the trouble with church (part 2)
When you’re torn in different religious directions, what’s an Adult With Kids to do? Concert lights. Video games. A coffee shop complete with lattes, pastries and comfy seating. One doesn’t usually associate these things with a place of worship. But … Continue reading 3+ME: Coffee, faith and the trouble with church (part 1)